3 Love Facts You Should Know

Love Facts: 1
Love is not any more strange and mysterious than many other human experiences. Actually there does exist a real and growing body of scientific knowledge about it.

Anything is mysterious to those who lack scientific knowledge about them; the rising and setting of the sun, the circulation of the blood, or changes in the weather.

But as our knowledge grows, all such experiences including facts of love become increasingly understandable.

But those who feel most sure of their love are often the poorest marriage risks. Having a healthy marriage, like having a healthy body, calls for the best scientific knowledge we can get.

Love Facts: 2
There is not just one, but there are many forms of love. The man who is not well may use just one word to describe how he feels.

So it is with love. There are many forms of it. Those in love may feel quite similar to those whose love is of a very different type.

Actually, however, one form of love may be quite unlike another. Some forms of love are essential to successful marriage, or even to successful living. Other kinds of love are forms of selfishness.

Sometimes we love people in the same way —even our own children. We get what we want out of them, often regardless of their wishes or best interests. Sometimes young people love and want to marry, mainly because they want to get something out of the other, not because they desire their partners' good.

Yet this selfish kind of love may look and feel just like any other kind. Not all forms of love are good and sound. Some forms should be warning signals, rather than bases for marriage.

The important question is not, "Do I love him enough to marry him?" It is rather, do we feel the kind of love toward each other upon which a marriage can successfully be built?

Love Facts: 3
The richest, deepest, and most permanent forms of love are those which we build over the years. So you are in love. You feel a warm, romantic glow toward each other which you do not feel toward anyone else. Great.

The love which you feel toward each other may be honest and real. If you marry, it will give you a good start. But the love which will make your marriage most worthwhile, which will not only endure but grow through the years, is not this romantic kind.

It is the richer, deeper kind which comes from having with another who is in a true sense a life partner; one with whom you have in common the basic purpose of building a family together; someone who is going your way.

Only such a love can really meet your needs and weld your relationship together so that it can easily withstand the storms and stresses which pull against it.

The romantic form of love may only be able to give you some thrilling experiences for a few weeks, or even a few years. But only this richer form of love can make the latter part of your life richer, and in a sense, more romantic than were the first years. And this love is not anything you can fall into.

It must be built!

But if you already feel some kind of love for each other. How can you tell what kind it is — whether it is selfish or unselfish, sound or unsound?

In additional to love facts, some of the other pages, especially those on character traits and mental health, are designed to help you know whether or not you have what it takes to build a richer and more abiding form of love.